There are all sorts of good, sensible, civilised reasons to avoid getting angry. Not only does it make you feel bad, but it can make you do silly things without noticing the risks and it can be self-destructive. As a result most people do their best to suppress, redirect and mask their anger. Most of… Read more


Modern life can be frustrating. Delayed trains, traffic, family friction and the demands of other people can all conspire to prevent life from running as smoothly as we would like. Learning that we are unable to satisfy our desires leads us to look for reasons why, someone or something to blame. It raises anxiety and… Read more


British psychoanalyst Christopher Bollas used this phrase to describe the feeling of something we know at some level but cannot quite explain. A visceral, non-verbal  memory of our early environment that shapes who we are from our earliest experiences of the object, be it mother, father, or self. This brings to mind the different types… Read more